When it comes to self-care most guys would rather go fishing than go for therapy. In fact, they would rather go anywhere else. Why do men avoid seeking help?
Research shows that women are twice as likely to see a therapist then men. Why is this true?
Research has shown that men would rather “fix” than talk. Most wives have experienced this – for example, when wanting to share about your day, a husband may listen for a problem to fix, rather than just let you vent.
Men also have a tendency to avoid opportunities to discuss their feelings. They skew toward logical/rational discussion versus diving into their emotions on a topic – whether the feelings are his or someone else’s.
Men are more likely to turn toward external relief or “self medication” rather than talk through a problem they are experiencing. They numb the problem with drinking or just tuning out to a sports game, burying or avoiding a struggle. This traps stress in your body and can create physical and emotional symptoms that are hard to live with – whether it’s physical pain or angry outbursts.
Time and again it’s been proven that the “boys don’t cry” and “walk it off” mentality pushed on boys and men is not helping them in the long run. Luckily, some high-profile men are breaking with tradition and opening up:
Wayne Brady ( What’s Your Line” ) opened up about his depression: http://www.cnn.com/2014/11/04/showbiz/celebrity-news-gossip/wayne-brady-depression/index.html
Brandon Marshall (New York Giants) talked about the stigma associated with seeking help: http://www.cnn.com/2014/11/04/showbiz/celebrity-news-gossip/wayne-brady-depression/index.html
TRE offers a unique way of helping people heal from trauma and stress. And it’s an excellent option for men you prefer not to discuss their struggles – it’s not talk therapy. It’s seven simple exercises led by a TRE provider. Both the provider and the client spend more time listening and observing than they do talking.
- TRE is not going to ask him how he feels.
- TRE provides ample space and time for any type of response.
- TRE offers an alternative to talk therapy. It’s been highly successful with military veterans dealing with PTSD for all the reasons listed.
- TRE gives a practical way of addressing feelings and needs through “shaking it off” rather than talking it out.
- TRE seeks to let men know that their mental health is as important as their physical health
Want to learn more?
Check out these videos from men sharing how TRE has made a difference for them:
CEO does TRE to relax and reduce stress.
“I feel lighter, I don’t feel the pressure and I can think clearer”.
Why is TRE good for young men?
It brings them out of their head and back into their bodies and softens the often rigid structure.